Volume 9, Issue 3: Verbatim
Quotations on Wedding and Marriage
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Let us be glad and rejoice and give Him glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has made herself ready. . . . Blessed are those who are called to the marriage supper of the Lamb!
Revelation 19:7, 9
As God by creation made two of one, so again by marriage He made one of two.
Marriage, n. The state or condition of a community consisting of a master, a mistress and two slaves, making in all, two.
Life is a real thing; it really matters whether you marry a good husband or a bad husband. And just as it is certainly to a woman's advantage to have a kind husband, it is certainly to a man's advantage to have a clever wife. What man ever does keep his wife in darkness and inferiority? Why should he? It is much jollier to have an intelligent wife than a stupid wife, considering the great amount of time that one has to pass in her company. I have met wives who were kept stupid because their husbands were stupid. But I have never met a wife who was kept stupid because her husband was clever.
Woman takes her being from man, man takes his well-being from woman.
And the brass will crash,
And the trumpets bray
And they'll cut a dash
On their wedding day.
Gilbert and Sullivan
First, he must choose his love, and then he must love his choice.
Hail wedded love, mysterious law, true source
Of human offspring, sole propriety,
In Paradise of all things common else.
With this ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly goods I thee endow.
Book of Common Prayer
God, the best maker of all marriages,
Combine your hearts in one.
The Christian religion, by confining marriage to pairs, and rendering the relation indissoluble, has by these two things done more toward the peace, happiness, settlement, and civilization of the world, than by any other part in this whole scheme of divine wisdom.
Wealth has corrupted the peasants of this and other lands in Germany. I have met peasant families who spend as much on the weddings of their sons and daughters, or christenings for that matter, as others on their homes, even with a plot and a vineyard.
Marriage has many pains, but celibacy has no pleasures.
The state of matrimony is the chief in the world after religion; but people shun it because of its inconveniences, like one who running out of rain, falls into the river.
Only excess is to be guarded against, and so the much more diligently, because it is difficult so to restrain affections of this kind, that they do not prevail to the stifling of reason. Therefore he who shall be induced to choose a wife, because of the elegance of her form, will not necessarily sin, provided reason always maintains the ascendancy, and holds the wantonness of passion in subjection.
No State has any right to change the law of marrige, or the conditions upon which it may be lawfully constituted or dissolved, as these have been ordained by God. Neither has any man or woman a right to contract any relation different in any respect, as to its character or duration, from that which God has ordained as marriage.
[Speaking of the early church fathers, ed.] . . . they gave new and holy meanings to the names of wife and mother.
A. Cleveland Coxe
Take heed that neither lust nor rashness do thrust you into a married condition, before you see such reasons to invite you to it, as may assure you of the call and approbation of God. For, 1. It is God that you must serve in your married state, and therefore it is meet that you take his counsel before you rush upon it; for he knoweth best himself what belongeth to his service. 2. And it is God that you must still depend upon, for the blessing and comforts of your relation: and therefore there is very great reason that you take his advice and consent, as the chief things requisite to the match: if the consent of parents be necessary, much more is the consent of God.
Though you have not mentioned the person, yet as you seem to speak as if she were not a stranger to me, I suppose I guess who she is; and if I guess right, I congratulate your choice; for it seems suitable in every respect. I have reason to be a friend to marriage; and I doubt not but if the Lord is pleased to give you a suitable partner, it will both add to your comfort, and strengthen your hands in his service. Commit yourselves, therefore, to him; act so far as he affords you an opening; consult him step by step; follow his providence close, but do not force it. We are prone to pursue things that appear desirable with too much keenness; but in his leadings there is usually a praying time and a waiting time.
So that men may know that God has not given them a boundless sovereignty by which they may trample women under foot, oppress them and behave tyrannically. So he teaches that each one must adapt to his role with all humaneness.
Because Christ is the head of the church, he is its Savior; therefore, as the husband is the head of the wife, he should not only rule, but protect and bless.
But when God's ordinances of the family are thus uprooted, and all the appointed influences of education thus inverted; when America has had a generation of women who were politicians, instead of mothers, how fundamental must be the destruction of society, and how distant and difficult must be the remedy!
Bereavement is not the truncation of married love but one of its regular phases--like the honeymoon. What we want is to live our marriage well and faithfully through that phase too.
The marital institution is sanctified by the forces of redemptive grace to such an extent that it is made one of the main channels for the accomplishment of God's saving purpose in the world.
Let us direct our wives to that which is good. Let them exhibit the lovely habit of purity [in all their conduct]; let them show forth the sincere disposition of meekness; let them make manifest the command which they have of their tongue, by their manner of speaking; let them display their love, not by preferring one to another, but by showing equal affection to all that piously fear God.
A wife is easily taken, but to have abiding love, that is the challenge. One who finds it in his marriage should thank the Lord God for it. Therefore approach marriage earnestly, asking God to give you a good, pious girl, with whom you can spend your life in mutual love. For sex [alone] accomplishes nothing in this regard; there must also be agreement in values an character.
There is many a pug who is convinced he would not be a real man, if once in many weeks he spoke a kind word to his wife. He stalks about the house and sits at table like one who is mute, speaking to his wife only when he decides to rattle her ears and sink her heart by reprimanding whatever she has said or done, even when her actions are well-intentioned and blameless. Such monsters should have become monks and hermits rather than husbands, for they are more at home in the forest with wild animals than in a house at the side of a rational wife.